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Stop Pleasing. Instead, Build an Extreme Home.
We all know lawyers are pleasers. Everyone knows that. The weird thing is how it doesn’t feel that way from the inside. When you are a lawyer, and a pleaser, you don’t think you’re a pleaser – it seems...
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The Finish Line Problem
To talk about lawyer burnout in a meaningful way, we have to mention the finish line problem. It’s the common element in every lawyer burnout story I’ve heard. So imagine you’re running a marathon and...
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Not your Damn Father
Before I was a psychotherapist, I was a patient, and at some point in my time as a patient, I participated in group therapy, and witnessed an unsettling interaction. (Unsettling-interaction-witnessing...
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A gripping hour of CLE
If you’re like me, the letters CLE, lined up, one next to the other, might not set your pulse racing. Contemplating an hour devoted to continuing legal education, the terms that spring to mind –...
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Stuck in the Middle with You
There’s a new place in biglaw – not always a comfortable place – called the middle. One of its defining characteristics is euphemism, particularly around job titles. Consider yourself lucky if you’re...
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Hanging with my peeps
It was my pleasure to sit down a couple weeks ago with Megan Hawksworth, of the Mastering Counseling podcast, and talk about being a therapist. I always enjoy a chance to compare notes with another...
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The Lawyer Therapist
By definition, anyone who asks me to be featured on her podcast is a lovely person…but Karima Gulick, even if she hadn’t asked me to be on her terrific podcast for lawyers, would still be a completely...
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Inhumane
I rode the subway up to midtown Manhattan last week, to the sound studio at ALM Media, to record a podcast with the brilliant and wonderful Leigh Jones. We talked about lawyer suicide, in response to...
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Permission Granted
My client said her firm had, more or less, a checklist of what they wanted in a lawyer they made partner. And she had knocked herself out checking off every last damn item. Helped with firm marketing...
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con salsa
(it’s a secret) I had a ball a few weeks ago recording a podcast with the delightful Kimberly Rice, of KLA Marketing. You can hear the results here. We talked about my background, including my strange...
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That Interview
You are really, really sick of law. In fact, you want out. At a minimum, you need to get out of your current job, or you might die. That much is not in dispute. But you still have the loans....
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Les Miserable Lawyers
poor dears Ah, lawyer misery. It is a force of nature. It drives the tides, powers the sun, causes the wind to blow and the trees to grow and the seasons to change. What would we do without miserable...
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TED time
Hi! I’ve always sort of wanted to do a TED talk. But I’ve also always thought it would be really hard to do a TED talk. Luckily, I found the perfect compromise: Have someone else do a TED talk about...
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No Woman, No Cry
There’s no getting out of it: This is a column discussing a syndrome in which lawyers (I suspect mostly women lawyers) sometimes cry on the job in what are arguably inappropriate situations, and the...
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Strange Days
It came as a bit of a relief, in these troubled times, to sit down for an hour with my old friend Sarah Mills, from Lawline, and record a webinar with the somewhat daunting title “How to Stay Sane,...
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Getting Real with a Couple of Pros
These are some serious dudes. I’ve been on a lot of podcasts over the years. But there are podcasts, and there are podcasts. Iron Advocate, a new series created by legendary courtroom hard-asses Jeff...
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Lighten up a little…
I had a blast this morning recording a segment on The Lisa Show, on BYU Radio. And no – it had nothing whatsoever to do with law! Isn’t that satisfying?!? Lisa’s the best! Instead, we laughed and...
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Charlie Brown, Lucy…and that football
This is getting predictable. I suspect I’m dating myself, but does anyone else remember the Peanuts cartoons? Specifically that endlessly repeated gag (more like heart-wrenching tragedy) of Lucy...
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Tackling Burnout, On-Air!
Richie T – “Best DJ in Utah” (as he’s universally known) So, okay…I couldn’t resist. Dillon Hansen, the charming young producer from The Lisa Show on BYU Radio, mentioned maybe coming back to do...
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World Class Performer!
Hey – I just got interviewed by none less than WorldClassPerformer.com! Can’t really complain about that…or the interview itself, which is rather in-depth and (I humbly aver) rather interesting. Here...
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